No one wants to talk about it. It’s as if it’s too uncomfortable, too shameful to address. I’ve lost count of how many women I’ve met in my life, all of them saying something like, “I could never sell my body. I would never have sex for money.” It’s a taboo, something looked down upon and demonized by society. But as I grew older, I started to see the deeper layers of this reality.
I learned there’s a difference between those who sell themselves—whether sexually or in other humiliating ways—to survive, and those who do it for the luxuries, the fancy things in life. There’s a huge gap between the two, and it took me time to understand just how much of an impact this distinction had on the lives of others.
No one should ever be forced to sell their body or their physicality just to live. It’s a kind of pain that words can’t fully describe. The sadness it brings to the soul, the weight it places on the spirit—it’s heartbreaking to witness, let alone experience.
Yet, strangely, the ones who do it for the wealth and glamour of the world somehow find themselves influencing others, pushing them into the same destructive cycle. They glamorize it, selling a dream to the vulnerable, turning a harsh reality into an illusion. And then there are those who hide behind lies, pretending their actions are something they’re not, creating a false narrative that spreads like wildfire. The truth gets buried, and with it, the pain and confusion continue to grow.
But it’s not just the ones who sell themselves who are at fault. The buyers—the ones who solicit for sex, who pay for the body of another person—are equally responsible. They feed into the system, perpetuating the cycle and making sex work seem like a luxury, a thing to be desired. Both sides of this equation are guilty of creating harm. It’s a tragic reality, where people, whether they’re the ones selling or buying, lose sight of their true worth.
God created us—both women and men—to be modest for a reason. There’s divine wisdom in this. When we show off too much of ourselves, we invite the wrong kind of attention, drawing us away from the purity He intended. God called us to remain pure until marriage for a reason: It’s a sacred bond that reflects His love and intention for us to be in wholesome, loving relationships. When we stray from that, chaos follows. And like a wildfire, the consequences spread, affecting not just us, but generations to come.
Keeping your virginity is not just a personal choice; it is a holy and sacred commitment. Abstinence is not about deprivation—it is about protecting the purity and worth that God instilled in you. If we cannot find the right man, then we must remain abstinent. The right man—the one God has for you—will wait. He will honor and respect you, seeing your value beyond what you can physically offer. A man who truly loves and cherishes you will never pressure you to give away something that is meant for a covenant before God.
Your value is not in how much you can provide for someone physically. Your worth is not measured by how many people desire you. Your light—your spirit, your soul, your faith—is far more powerful than anything external. If a man or woman cannot see that, they are not meant for you. The person God has in mind for you will recognize your worth without you having to prove it or sell yourself like a product.
But it’s not just about selling yourself in the most obvious ways. The way we present ourselves, the way we dress, and the way we seek validation all play a role. When we become too focused on appearing “sexy” or visually appealing based on our bodies and material things, we slowly begin to place our worth in temporary things. Wearing extremely revealing clothing, using our appearance to gain attention, or valuing ourselves only by how others see us can be a slippery slope.
Like I said before, accepting one bad thing makes more room to accept even more bad things. And eventually, it will get so bad until all is damaged and there’s nothing left. That’s just the truth. So be wise. The more we accept the world’s standards of beauty and worth, the further we drift from God’s truth.
Our bodies may turn to ashes or return to the dirt, but our souls and spirits live on forever, in the name of God. We must remember that our actions have eternal consequences, and we must choose wisely, knowing that we are more than our bodies. We are children of God, deserving of respect and love, not exploitation.
It saddens me to see how far we’ve fallen, but the truth is, we have no one to blame but ourselves. Yet, God’s grace is always there, waiting to lift us up when we choose to turn back to Him. He offers redemption and healing, never condemning but always loving, ready to restore us to the beauty and peace He originally designed for us. If we open our hearts to His guidance, we can find our way back to the purpose He has for each of us—free from the chaos, full of peace, and walking in the love He has always wanted us to know.
Tu Paz: A Journey of Faith and Healing 